Marrying a military man means moving. Moving all over the country and often times overseas. In part, it’s fun and exciting. It can also be lonely and hard to continuously be away from family. This goes for anyone who as moved away though, not just for the military folks.
- Your Friends Become Family
Once you make friends, they do become your family. You turn to them for help, companionship, and are thankful when the holiday invitations come. Many holidays are spent with friends in place of your family.
- Feeling Left Out Of Family Events
I have missed so many holidays, get togethers, and reunions. It’s just not always possible to get home. Heck, before this past Christmas, I hadn’t been home for the holidays since 2009. Between work schedules and the cost of travel, it wasn’t always feasible. I even missed two of my grandparent’s funerals because we were overseas.
- Being Surprised At Someone’s Appearance
I realize we all age, but I’m always surprised when I see certain members of the family. It’s either how old they look all of a sudden, how gray they are, or how much they look like an adult compared to the last time I saw them.
- Vacation Means Seeing Your Family
This isn’t always the case, but when your vacation time is limited, it’s spent either at home with them or showing them around the place you currently live.
- Going Home Means Endless Days Seeing Family Members
Thankfully my family isn’t so big that this is a problem, but everyone has demands on you when you do go home. You can’t do what you want because it’s spent shuffling back and forth between houses.
- Your Changing Accent
I never thought I had much of an accent until I lived other places and people would point it out to me. I know it has changed some based on where we have lived.
- The Kids Don’t Know Their Family
I hate this the most. I have to remind my kids who people are. Yes, they know their grandparents and our siblings, but beyond that, it gets hazy. I grew up knowing all my cousins, my parent’s cousins, and even more family than most people probably do.
It’s a given, but it hits at the oddest times.
- Questioning The Choice To Move
In the military life, we don’t have much of a choice, but we still question it. Did we do the right thing by moving overseas with our spouse or not moving home during a deployment?